Writing

Writing on queerness, embodiment, and the cost of being "good," at the intersection of personal narrative and cultural reflection. These essays explore the social scripts we inherit, the quiet ways we adapt to belong, and the possibility of living more truthfully inside our own lives.

Selected Essays & Commentary

From Midwest to Pink Pony Club: Some of us arrived late. Some never did.

An essay on the queer joy that shimmered at a Chappell Roan concert, while reflecting on the memory of queer elders lost to violence, silence, and a world that never let them dance.

Pride.com, 2025,

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When community care was treated as a threat in Minnesota

An essay about what it means to show up for one another in the aftermath of violence; how community care becomes both resistance and survival

The Advocate, 2026

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Feelin' Good as Hell

A reflective Essay about learning to live more kindly in a body shaped by motherhood, history, and imperfect truce-making--and the moment you realize your children are watching how you treat yourself.

Scary Mommy, 2020

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Speaking of Corsets

Embodiment, desire, and other things we were taught not to hide

My newsletter where I publish essays on identity, desire, social perception, and the ongoing work of becoming.

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Book In Progress

Coming Out, Coming Home: A Firefly's Guide to Queer Becoming, Desire, and Embodiment (working title)

A memoir-infused exploration of late-in-life queerness, shame, embodiment, and care,

and the process of learning to live more fully inside one's own life.